Tips to Help Teach Respect
One of the biggest values that parents want to instill in their children these days is respect. Unfortunately, it has also become one of the hardest.
However, this isn't a cause for alarm, as the best way for children to learn respect is to emulate respectful adults. Yelling, cursing, shouting, being argumentative and sarcasm are all things that children pick up on.
But just as easily as they can learn negative traits, they can learn positive characteristics too.
10 Tips for Teaching Respect
1. Model Respect
As we've mentioned, if you want your children to exercise respect for others, you need to have respect for others too.
2. Expect It
By having high expectations of how your children should behave, they'll rise to meet these standards. Children are not afraid to be challenged, and you should take advantage of this.
3. Teach It
Supply your children with the tools that they can use to show you and others respect.
4. Praise It
In order for respect to really stick in your child's mind, they need to know that it's being acknowledged. Never miss the opportunity to recognize and praise your children for their positive, respectful actions.
5. Discuss It
If there are instances where other children are being disrespectful, use these times as discussion pieces for how those children could behave differently to be more respectful.
6. Correct It
When you see you're children being disrespectful, make sure that you are strong, firm and direct and that you act immediately. Don't let opportunities to teach and correct slip by, and always make sure that when you are correcting the behavior you are still modeling respect yourself.
7. Acknowledge It
Again, don't let things slide when either respectful or disrespectful behavior is exhibited. Make sure you call out bad behavior and praise respectful behavior.
8. Understand It
Children are constantly growing and learning, so decisions that they make related to behavior may be inappropriate because they don't know how to properly express themselves at this time. Remember to be patient.
9. Reinforce It
Remind your children of positive decisions they've made so that they remember how it felt to show respect and how it felt to earn praise for their actions. By remembering the overall experience of being respectful, it will stick out more to them.
10. Reward It
While you want your children to learn respect, you don't want to overindulge them with rewards. Help them learn this behavior through rewards like praise, recognition, privileges and extra responsibility. Teaching your children to be respectful isn't going to happen overnight, so remember to take your time and have patience and never lose the willingness to show respect to others in your own life to stand as an example of how your children should behave.
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